Everyone knows what love is. Everyone knows what the image of love portrays. Everyone has watched a Disney fairy tale. Maybe you have loved before. Maybe you’ve been loved. Maybe you are IN love.
Whatever the case may be, let me give you some advice that I have learned in my short life time.
1.) Don’t say anything you’ll regret when you’re angry.
Let’s face it, we’ve all been angry at someone we love. We’re human. We say things that we don’t mean. We get angry over stupid things. But one thing that I’ve learned is to never ever say anything mean, hurtful or nasty while you’re angry. Unless you really mean it, don’t say it.
Yes, you’re angry at him/her. But, think of it this way… if he/she were to get into a car accident at this very moment, would you be okay with living with the fact that he/she died or got hurt while you were angry? Was the anger worth it? If the answer is no, then do yourself a favor and forgive the person who hurt you.
3.) Spend alone time together.
It’s fun to hang out with friends, go to parties, be young. But, invest some time with your one and only and your relationship will flourish. I promise.
4.) Never put one person on the couch during a fight.
Even if you are mad at him/her, don’t kick them out. Sleep together always. Even if it kills you to be next to them. Turn your back away, but don’t kick each other out. Sleeping together means sticking together, always.
5.) Realize that you’re different.
God made every single human being on this earth different. You both need to realize that you do not have the same interests. You like different foods, different tv shows, different books… etc. THIS IS THE REASON YOU WERE ATTRACTED TO HIM/HER in the first place. Embrace it. Love it. Get over it.
6.) Never give up.
Even in your worst argument. Even in the darkest, saddest times. Lean on each other. Talk it out. You need each other. Go to counseling if that is what it takes. Don’t do it for the children. Do it for yourselves.
If you put God in the middle of the relationship – whether it be broken or dysfunctional – the relationship will grow and be fixed as long as you both pray and never give up hope.
I really want to encourage all couples to take some of this advice. I don’t care if you’re old, young, middle aged, etc. take this advice and love your lover. Don’t push them away during a fight, don’t do or say things you don’t mean. Love them with all your heart. Put trust in them and do not break their trust with you.
Always place God in the middle, and your relationship will be sure to grow!